You’re Not the One for Me
Have you ever been so dazzled by a person that you are convinced they are the one for you. The one who can make you happy. You can see no other. This is a very naive behavior because you are overlooking yourself. You are valuing someone more than yourself. You are overlooking your power of self. Have you ever broken it off but then been lured back? Things can also demand this power over you. You can value something more than yourself. Things can not bring you joy or happiness.
My love affair with food goes way back.
We’ve been together for a long time. Our relationship has been tight. Torrid. Sinister. Dysfunctional.
My weight loss surgery put physical limitations between us. We separated. We’ve struggled with an unhealthy attempt to continue our ways. Off and On.
But along the way I’ve learned that food is not my friend at all.
Have you ever heard the song by KT Tunstall? “Black Horse & The Cherry Tree”
I’ve learned that FOOD is NOT my Friend. In fact in many ways food can be that manipulative man who is trying to lure you into a relationship.
Today this song’s versus rings in my head. With much passion and determination when I am feeling lured by him the verse rings out to me.
But I said no, no, no, no-no-no
I said no, no, you’re not the one for me
No, no, no, no-no-no
I said no, no, you’re not the one for me
The song is like a mantra when I am trying to remind myself that I DON’T need food to make me happy. Or to comfort myself. Or to sedate myself. It’s really not going to make me happy. It has always in the long run made me sick, angry, meek, tired, defeated, out of control, unhealthy, manic, and mad!
This song and the versus makes me feel strong, in control, powerful, courageous, and Victorious.
Food is not the one for me.
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Carla Crimm
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I love that song! You are right, food is not my friend. It is necessary for us to survive, but we really don’t need a friendship with it. I used to live to eat, but now I eat to live.
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my tiny tank
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Amen Carla! I find if I stick to wholefoods then my mindset is eat to live. I think about nourishing myself, not feeding myself. Thanks for share this wise phrase with us.
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Julia
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Haha…pre-op, Little Debbie was one of my best friends! NOT!!!! This is why I think counseling can be beneficial for so many post-ops. As everyone says, the surgery fixes our stomachs, not our heads, so if your head isn’t in the right place? Eventually that will catch up with you, I think. We definitely need to get in the eat to live not live to eat mindset!
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my tiny tank
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Hi Julia. I loved this comment it made me laugh thanks so much for sharing it.
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Molly
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I couldn’t agree more! It’s taken me years (before and after surgery) to fully understand how NOT my friend food can be. When “the voice” in my head whispers for sedation and comfort having a song like the one you reference (thanks for sharing!) is a huge help in snapping me back.
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my tiny tank
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Hi Molly. I find inspiration in songs. That song is soooo powerful. It truly rings in my head when my little voice is encouraging me to “lean on” the food. No no no no. I don’t need food. Thanks for commenting.
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Letting Go of Food
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[...] One of my favorite saying to myself when I struggle about my relationship with food is to say “You’re Not the One for Me” [...]
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