Felt Better the Day After
I wanted to continue a topic I’ve been writing about. I want to talk about Alcohol. Last night was date night. I looked forward to it all day. I got a pedicure and picked out a new outfit. We went to our favorite restaurant and in fact sat in the same booth that we did on our first date. You can tell we are creatures of habit. What was the difference this date night?It was that I did not have my favored glass of wine.
I must admit, I thought about it. And I wanted it. My husband even asked me at the table what I was going to have tonight, “a glass of wine?”
I had a chance.
But I knew, and I had decided deep down inside no alcohol for me.
I have always loved a glass of wine. It is very celebratory for me. It eases my mood and it signifies happy hour. With weight loss surgery I was left unable to drink more than a glass or two without feeling bad.
A funny story.
One day when my son was in daycare I had to drop him off very early. We are early birds so no problem for us. But at the Church Daycare they were just turning on the lights. Ryan loved this place and being with the care providers and I was on my way.
The next day I dropped him off and the care provider was chuckling. She said “I must tell you how cute Ryan is.” ”Really” I thought.
And she proceeded to tell me this story. She said,
“Yesterday I brought Ryan down to the kitchen, I told him I really needed my coffee. As we walked to the kitchen Ryan told me… My Mommy doesn’t drink coffee, she drinks wine.”
It was one of those perfect parent moment.
My wine has always been my nectar. I haven’t been a big drinker but liked my wine. What I hadn’t realized though was that with the delight of the happy hour glass or two came a nice eased mood but the long term affects the next day made me feel not so good. I would wake with puffy hands and not feeling tip top. It was the wine.
Recently I decided not to drink it. Why do I need it? Why do I need to drink something that gives me a short term high but a long term yucky feeling? Why do I want to put something in my body that is not good for my body. Especially as a post op RNY patient is is very important for me not to consume alcohol.
Hence my decision to stop.
Last night. I didn’t have my glass of wine. I had a great dinner with a handsome guy and I couldn’t of asked for more.
And I felt better the day after. A far better feeling than the high at happy hour.
I share this not because I want to sway weight loss surgery post ops not to drink. But because I want to share the process I took to discovering that alcohol was not what I thought is was. It was a brief high, but made me feel crappy in the long run. Not to mention I typically ate more when I drank wine.
I just wanted to share.
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Marlene joy banded
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My children as well have the bighearted effect on our lives. I have a ? If he would have never said it do I think you might still be having your wine.. I know that my kids really have an effect in me to word wise . I might not take heed right then but some of their comments have made me think. And helped me change the way I was to how I am now.
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my tiny tank
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The story about my son happened about 5 years ago. I thought it was funny. In fact I don’t drink coffee and I loved my glass of wine and my son knew it LOL. It is a story I will always remember and we certainly can see ourselves CLEARLY through the eyes of our Babes. I think the process of me deciding to stop all together has to do with getting back in touch with my WLS rules over the last year. I’m back to a 1 cup portion, exercise, protein first, etc. Throw a glass of wine in there and it makes you feel crappy! Might get e quick high at first but later feel like crap. I want to feel good and I can control that. I”m giving up that short term high for feeling good day and night. thanks for the comment Marlene, I do think my son is an inspiration in how I choose
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Malia
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When you described putting something in your body that gave a temporary high but made you feel bad later I instantly thought of bad food choices too. I’m in Recovery anyway so I stay away from alcohol period and I can totally understand what your saying. It’s such a slippery slope… One French fry leads to more and at least for me one glass of wine would lead to more than is good for me. Great post
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my tiny tank
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Malia, thanks for commenting! It’s sugar for me, that gets me hooked. I do have to have some carbs in order to keep a balance, but I try to use good whole food carbs. It’s all a learning process about what works for you. It’s taken me a while but I am getting there. Be well.
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Sue Shumac
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This is nice to learn about someone else. I myself I dont drink. But within the last few months I have drank more than I ever have. I think it is from the pain I am having in my leg. I am five and half years since I had my RNY. I also only drink a couple of drinks before I am done.
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my tiny tank
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Hi Sue. Thanks for your comment. I think more and more wls friends are looking to alcohol as a comfort. I know I was. Just a bit hits a gastric bypass patient with a punch!! So in fact any amount of drink is not good. Straight into our blood streams. I’m not drinking anymore. Now if I can only give up my chocolate addiction. LOL.
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