Did I Really Instagram My Toes Today!
Sometimes you just need to do what you need to do. I got in my mani pedi the other day. You know the one I had to cancel the day we got the unplanned 16 inches of snow. So this meant I had my flip flops out to use after my treatment.
Well I’m not putting them back!! I decided today that I’m keeping them out. And in fact I’m going to wear them.
Why?
Because I can.
I can because I really don’t care what others think.
I want to wear my flip flops. Set free my new pink toes.
It feels so good and it feels so right.
Getting to a place where you are comfortable in your skin and comfortable in your decisions feels good.
It’s a place where you trust yourself.
Where you honor yourself.
Where you put yourself first.
Where you protect yourself.
Where you like yourself.
Where you feel free.
Where you accept your weaknesses.
Where you leverage your strengthens.
Where you pick yourself up with compassion when you fall.
Where you respect yourself.
How do you feel about what I’m saying? Do you care? Care about what others think? Do you care about if others think you’ll regain?
Have you regained and are you suffering from the ideas of what you think others think of you?
Do you like who you are today? Right now. Or are you always seeking a “you” that you’re trying to attain?
Please consider leaving me a comment.
Once you leave a comment you may be eligible for my monthly raffle.
Note: Most Comments Require Moderation so don’t be concerned if your comment does not appear immediately. It will appear once I have a chance to read it.
Try subscribing to the comments this way you will know when I have replied or others have commented too.
Trackback from your site.
Comments (16)
Marlene
| #
I read this blog three times at various times during the day and thought about the words you wrote. Thank you.
Reply
my tiny tank
| #
Hi Miss Marlene. wow triple reading! I like that. You know I am a re-reader. I re-read my blogs all the time. It is therapeutic! it helps for it to all sink in
Reply
CathyO
| #
I would love to say I dont care what others think but darn it, I do! I am the only person at my office of 200+ people who has had WLS and I kind of feel like the poster child for it frankly. Everyone asks me about it and comments on how I am looking etc.. so I do want to be sucessful however, I also understand this is my journey and one that only I can make or break. And, I do want to look my best and be healthy more than anything. I am really lucky that my coworkers have all been very positive and supportive. Even my male boss (I work in a very male dominated environment – I mean raging male testosterone all over!) has been one of the most supportive and helpful people at work.
I love who I am today. I cant say I worry too much about what others think of who I am as a person. I think I am a pretty great human and I try to live that and show that and most importantly, I believe it myself and that has been the absolute best part of having surgery. I learned I am worth loving and caring about and there is nothing bad or wrong with taking care of myself and putting myself first.
I appreciate your thought provoking post tonight Tracy. It helps me to think about this stuff and that is important.
Reply
my tiny tank
| #
Hi Cathy, I love how the one person we think is “not going to get it” ends up being our biggest advocate. I have found that myself a few times in my journey. There is an executive in my firm that also had RNY but about a year or 2 after me. He was new to the firm and I think his assistant had share with him that I had previously had weight loss surgery. Well he and I spoke a few times while he was losing. Our paths don’t cross too much since we are in different areas but when we do see each other there is an underlying camaraderie. I love that! The WLS connection is why we online can find ourselves relating and friending other WLS post ops and create such strong relationships. Thanks for your comments!!!! and friendship
Reply
Julia
| #
Great post, Tracy!
I have to say I’ve gotten quite good at not really caring what anyone thinks about who I am, or my WLS or whatever. I figure I can’t control what anyone thinks of me. All I can control is what I think of me, and I figure as long as I’ve got that under control, what more can I ask for? I’m comfortable in my own skin, with who I am, and that’s what’s important…not what others think.
Reply
my tiny tank
| #
Hi Julia, it is a great victory and life learning if we can live our lives on our own terms and not worry to much about what others think about our actions. I’d rather spend the enjoy on me
Reply
Cris
| #
Im actually trying to figure myself out at the moment. I used to care what others think of me and now I just want to surround myself with happy, healthy, positive people and let go of those that arnt. I see it this way we are all on our own paths and its ok to not have every one on it. <3
Reply
my tiny tank
| #
Oh Chris….. please please please keep working on surrounding yourself with positive and happy people. It is the BIGGEST change I ever made in my life. It was the hardest. I still mourn some of the people I have moved on from. BUT my life is so less drama filled. I am happier and healthier for it.
Reply
Michelle R.
| #
You go girl!!! Love those polished toes in the flip flops……summer is right around the corner!
Sometimes I do care what others think and other times I could care less….guess it depends on my mood and the situation.
Reply
my tiny tank
| #
Hi Michelle, thanks for your comment…. LOVE when my toes are FREE!!!
Reply
Donna B
| #
Awesome toes Tracy!! I love getting my mani/pedis and wear flip flops to the salon all the time!
I don’t think I can say honestly that I don’t care what others think. My big secret – I have never felt like I fit in. It didn’t matter if I was 128 pounds and thought I was obese . . . or almost 300 pounds and absolutely obese. I always felt that i just didn’t measure up to something or someone’s standards. Walked the “outside” of the groups of people I met – lots of fear of SOMETHING held me back. I hate the thought of being embarassed. I hate the thought of being criticized about something/anything. I know this is a weakness, not sure if I totally accept it and embrace it. But I also know that it hasn’t changed – not yet, not in the past 50 years!
However, I will say, there are absolutely certain things I don’t care about at all. And wearing flip flops is one of them!
Thought provoking post – thanks!
Reply
CathyO
| #
Donna B I totally get what you are saying. I used to fret quite a bit over “not being like everyone else” and not feeling as though I fit in. I get that more than you know. I felt that way for many years because I came from a family of very logical thinkers (good at math and planning and all that stuff) and I am a creative person, dont like math, dont like to plan etc.. and I felt like in my family I was a total outcast and was made fun of etc.. and I carried that out into the world and applied that thinking to myself in every area. I have learned that I should not define myself by what others think of me. What other people think of me is none of my business (dont remember who said that).
I would not say this is a weakness at all. You sound like an honest, thoughtful, intelligent person to me and totally, completely normal. If everyone admitted their feelings like you are doing here you would see that too!
Reply
Donna
| #
Thanks Cathy!! I know I’m not alone . . . and I always ALWAYS appreciate you and your candid open look at things. You FIT IN with me my friend!!
Reply
my tiny tank
| #
Hi Donna, I still have issue hearing feedback too. It is something I am working on. I tend to react very defensively at first. It was my husband who highlighted this for me. He said “when I share something with you I am not necessarily criticizing you.” This made me think. So I am trying not to react so quickly when someone shares with me. Ahhh we are all a work in progress. thanks for your candor!! It helped me
Reply
CathyO
| #
Oh geez Donna! it is THAT Donna! I did not put 2 and 2 together until you posted again. Well, I was right! You are smart and wonderful
Reply
my tiny tank
| #
it’s so fun that friends are finding each other HERE!!
Reply